Do you know that in 97% of cases diets actually don't work in the long term? Diets are completely ineffective because they focus on entirely wrong things! When you follow a particular diet and self-restrict yourself, you deny a part of yourself, opening a door to inner conflicts. Even people following their diet for years end up breaking it. Why? Because diets are restricted and tell you what you can't have! Years pass by, but people continue to make plans to lose weight, and they struggle without knowing that their focus is on the wrong thing.
You will know that dieting won’t work in the long run if you have ever tried dieting and forcing yourself to follow a particular regime. You may lose weight for a short while but only to put it all back again or maybe even more!
If dieting worked, nobody would be overweight...
Many people are unaware of the fact that there are so many forms of hunger. First of all, there is real hunger which is nutritional hunger - the one in which we feel that our stomach is empty and we need to nourish it with food.
Then there comes dehydration. It is also a form of hunger. When you are dehydrated, you tend to want to eat. You are looking for hydration through food.
And then, there is the emotional hunger, which is linked to pushing away our unwanted feelings. For example, when you eat a bucket of ice cream but you still feel hungry. The reason is that food is worthless in terms of nurturing your body with minerals and vitamins but you eat it to suppress some unwanted emotions.
The reason why we people are addicted to junk food is our feelings. Our stomach region is abuzz with 100 million neurons. It responds to continuous challenges and makes you move forward. It is the center of all emotions and feelings related to fear, anxiety, worry, survival, and satisfaction. That is why, when you are not in a sane mental state, your stomach may get upset and will let you know. Unfortunately, to cope with our unwanted feelings, we push them away by eating them.
So as you see there are different forms of hunger but only one of them means physically needing nourishment. And in this blog post, I will be covering the emotional hunger that results in compulsive eating which is became a habit.
Being certified Core Transformation®, NLC and Unconscious Mind Coach, I explore and help my clients rewire such complex issues related to emotional hunger when people engage in compulsive eating and can’t control it. It seems that they need food or sugar to push this unpleasant feeling down.
If you are noticing such emotional eating, I recommend as the first step to observe and recognize what emotions trigger your food choices. You need to understand your specific pattern. Emotional hunger means you feel bad about something… unpleasant news, heartbreak, or stress from a hectic day. For example, if you feel sad, you eat ice cream. When you feel unloved, you eat a piece of cake. If you have had a terrible day and you are frustrated and stressed, you order a pizza or have a glass of wine.
Some emotional eaters see food as a reward after a stressful day that calms them down. These are tranquilizing eaters who get calmed down by eating. And it is true that after eating a plate of pasta for lunch, you'll find that you can enjoy a good afternoon nap.
Or you might be physically tired, but you have to complete this project and so you have coffee, cookies, or potato chips to keep you going as you may believe this is your source of energy. However, digestion takes energy away when you're tired. You eating these things doesn't give you energy because digestion sucks that energy.
The truth is: You can't win the war against yourself!
The truth is that overeating will never help you gain this well-being. It will only suppress your immune system for such a long time that your mind and system get into confusion and inner conflict, if you fail to realize the reason for it.
The truth is: You can't win the war against yourself!
MANY PARTS ARE INVOLVED.
The chief emotional states that lead you to overeat are frustration, heartbreak, tiredness, sadness, anger, stress, loneliness, and being overwhelmed. Additionally eating has many hidden emotional drives and involves complex psychological aspects! So many parts of you are involved when it comes to eating habits and trying to let you know something.
There might be some parts of your personality that are well-nourished, and you feel confident about them. It may happen that you are hiding behind the fact that you are overweight yet, there is a part where you could be craving attention. A part of you could be hungry for success, and the other part of you still is missing the joy and purpose of life. And there might be another part of you that is starving for praise and recognition.
And there might be another side of you where you feel empty and devoid of love. So, when we feel empty, the best solution for us is stuffing ourselves with pizza. There is a deep misunderstanding that food may compensate for this emptiness inside. And so if we are hungry for attention but getting that all mixed up thinking that we are hungry for food. That’s because of our emotional powerhouse in the stomach area, I mentioned earlier. Feelings like anxiety, stress, tension, anger, sadness begin in the stomach and push the real feelings down. That is why many people lose the connection with what they feel while eating their stress and tension away.
So, when you lack emotional nourishment, you stuff yourself with any food you get hands-on till you feel overly bloated.
WHAT ARE YOU ESCAPING FROM?
Here is the truth. Most people are used to cope with unpleasant feelings by escaping to a world of distraction, reaction, inaction, or wrong action! But the way out of this vicious cycle is the right action!
The right action will be to make yourself feel until you no longer need to be fed because of these feelings. Because when you are sad, you push that feeling of sadness with a cake or pizza. You knowingly suppress that part of yourself that is desperately trying to let you know something! As a result, your feelings start to come back stronger than before when you try to suppress them. As a result, you end up binge eating… But you can't win the war against yourself! You have pushed your feelings away, and they're going to keep coming back until you deal with them!
Instead of dieting, forcing, and beating up yourself, you can start observing and recognizing the emotions which trigger your food choices. Observe the pattern which emerges for you. Realizing your trigger factors is the first step.
After all, if you feel that eating makes things better and takes away all your pain, why hasn't it worked yet? Why are you still doing it?
What is triggering your food choice and eating behavior? Start taking notes on what, why, where, when, and you will discover your “Aha” moment!
That is the first step - become a neutral observer of your eating habits without judging yourself.
INSTALL HEALTHY HABITS AT THE DEEPEST MENTAL LEVEL.
Changing your eating habits with a challenging diet, discipline, and force doesn’t work because these methods are at the conscious level having merely a narrow focus of about 5% of our mental capacity.
Being human beings, we are hardwired to avoid defeat, but we are also hardwired to go towards pleasure and away from pain. This situation leads to inner conflict and associates a dieting regime with pain and discomfort. Do you want that? Of course not. Once you’ve had enough of the frustration, you will eventually give up and give in to your cravings! It can be a vicious cycle that is capable of eroding your self-esteem and confidence.
Our relationship with food is based on many hidden emotional drives and involves complex psychological aspects which operate at a deeper level. So, if we become able to tap into that other 95% of our internal resources and make the change at that deep unconscious level, there's no struggle.
It means when you rewire your eating habits at the unconscious level, there is no need to use willpower to try to compel yourself to be the way you want to be. Instead, it can just happen naturally and automatically. Your unconscious system is working 24/7 for you in the background. It keeps track of twenty million bits of information per second, which includes your breath, blood circulation, nail growth, and everything else. This process happens automatically without your conscious awareness because it is naturally programmed that way.
So, you can let your unconscious mind manage a healthy lifestyle for you without consciously trying to force yourself. Without self-restrictions. Without diets. No more emotional eating. Just an easy congruent healthy lifestyle, intuitive healthy eating habits and a happy body that you are proud of.
SAY GOODBYE TO SELF-RESTRICTIONS AND DIETS!
Say goodbye to self-restrictions and diets and rewire a healthy relationship with food with ease. The truth is that a healthy regime doesn’t start with your decision in your head but with an unconscious automatic level.
Transformative sessions with me will surely help you find or regain your inner balance, purpose, and fun. They will reduce stress at the deepest level and cultivate your mental and emotional stability. This stability is the foundation of meaningful growth, and fulfilling life.